Stephen Li (also known as Zhixing Li), Auckland, New Zealand

We weren’t together very long, i ended up leaving him just shy of the six month mark because i simply couldn’t handle how toxic he is. we met on tinder so obviously i should have known he is completely fucked in the head. he screams at his mother. yeah, she isn’t very pleasant but dude…you don’t yell at your mother, thats just so disrespectful and wrong. he would constantly shame me for eating IN PUBLIC, he would constantly compare me to other women and he progressively got worse when i was diagnosed with fibromyalgia. he was literally there during the whole diagnosis process but he just had zero empathy. he is a whore for attention to the point where he will literally exaggerate the fact that he has depression like wtf why? because your mum wants you to actually do something with your life? but when someone (including me) has legitimate problems and trauma, he will simply disregard it and be like “OH BUT IM SOOOOO MUCH WORSE MY MUM IS SO MEAN!!!” i would beg him to seek help because i was really worried about him and instead of listening, he would basically project all of his issues ONTO ME! he is also incapable of being honest – instead of telling the truth, he will pick out the bits of the truth that are convenient for him and not mention WHY THIS HAPPENED IN THE FIRST PLACE! he encouraged me to let his mother perform a special treatment on me to get rid of my fibromyalgia but instead she fucking ELECTROCUTED me and to this day i still havent recovered the muscle function that i’ve lost and i still have migraines and brain zaps even a year later. his response??? “eh.” not even an apology, just “eh,” he also tells people that i wouldnt pay rent, but he never mentions that i didnt pay rent because HE GAVE ME PERMISSION NOT TO!! why would i not pay rent? because he is too much of a lazy piece of shit to even feed himself but yeah sure totally go ahead and tell everyone that i stole from you. how about you give me back the mobility you and your mother stole from me and the sanity you stole from months of gaslighting me????? and you’re clearly fucking up your current girlfriend too because when i apologised for possibly making her uncomfortable when i saw that she works at the local grocery store and that she has no reason to feel threatened so she can stop staring at me when i want to do my groceries in peace because she basically responded with a ton of the lies he tells about me, she scrolled through my instagram for months and even told me to kill myself (not in those exact words because its now illegal in NZ) but yeah, how much do you have to fuck someone up to the point where shes stalking your clearly uninterested ex girlfriend! she is actually the reason i felt inspired to warn other women about him because there’s a special place in hell for women who don’t help other women and i would never wish my experience with him upon anyone else. i hope he learns to tell the truth and that he treats women with respect not just when its convenient for him but ALWAYS!!!