Scott Simon, San Francisco, California

Scott is a 50-year-old man (1965,) who freely admits to his cheating ending two previous marriages. He promises that he has changed. Scott will never change. If anything, the feelings of the women he manipulates into caring for him mean even less to him the older he gets. He will promise you anything to gain your trust. He doesnt care what he has to say as long as he gets what he wants–someone to validate his attractiveness desirability. You can bet if you ever have a disagreement with him, the first place he will turn to will be the Internet to find another woman to comfort him, while he characterizes you as demanding, unreasonable, or whatever else he has to say to make you look like someone who deserves to have someone she cares about be disloyal and dishonest behind her back. Scott approached me in a Skype chat group for former members of Christian Mingle. He kept saying I was too good to be true, that Im so amazing, that he wanted to explore a lifelong relationship with me. He was a little over the top at times, but he seemed sweet sincere. We had what felt like an intense connection. He called it surreal. It wasnt long before it became apparent that something was off about Scott. Turns out he was (and still is) communicating with an ex-girlfriend named Margaret, who is currently in a relationship with another man. She dumped Scott, and his ego couldnt take that. They text every day and talk about once a week. I tried to end things with him several times, but he wouldnt allow it. He put me through four months of lies, excuses, disappointments and hurt when he could have just let me go find someone who truly wanted me. I didnt leave him, because his brother had died about two weeks after we met. Scott was hurting, and I hurt for him. I truly cared for him. I actually prayed for him every day. I feel like such a fool. I chalked up his behavior to grief, and I tried to give him his space, even though being treated like an obligation was the last thing I needed then. He would yell at me that I shouldnt expect anything from him, because his brother had died, and yet refused to let me go. He made me feel guilty even for being hurt. When I finally ended it, the first thing he did was approach another woman in the chatroom that he had stopped talking to, to pursue me, and tell her he wished he had pursued her instead. He told her that I was too demanding, while simultaneously telling me hes still hopeful for a future with me. Be careful