David Errol Hough is a self-professed and diagnosed sociopath. He has a pattern of wreaking destruction upon his victims. He moves from supply source to supply source with no regard for his victims, adults or children. He is even more dangerous because he has family who will bail him out and lie for him around every corner. These family members support and cover-up his tendencies and desertions. Before you even have an idea of what is happening he has already begun the lies and betrayals against you to insure when he does discard you and any children in the relationship all of his financial supply sources will feel sorry for him and give him money to live. Rest assured he has plenty of debt he will hide from you until he needs your money to pay it. He will laugh as he tells you what he has convinced them to believe about you. His financial supply sources need to take responsibility for what they have enabled this 44 year old overgrown child to do to so many women and children. They know him, his games and the sickness he was diagnosed with as a child and they still enable him to perpetrate these destructive acts upon his victims by continuously providing him money and resources for the “love-bombing” and after each discard. In fact, my acquaintance was told that he comes from such a wealthy background that he receives checks as “gifts” or from his trust fund (non-existent) on a regular basis. It was not until she discovered correspondence that came with one of these “gifts” that she found out he was lying about how he acquired the money from one of his suppliers. She never wanted or needed the money. He would spend hundreds of dollars a month on fast food for only himself and toys (literally children’s toys and video games for himself, not the child he was pretending to be a dad to). Then he would cry to these family members that she was spending all of “their” money on herself or child and that he never got anything for himself. Even though she would scrape by to make sure he had money to buy whatever he wanted. My acquaintance was berated and often given the cold shoulder by family members because he had lied so badly about her starting about 2 years into their relationship.
Listen to all of the stories he tells you. And after some phone calls and investigating his past, they are ALL just stories. It is always his exes spending, drinking, gambling, etc that causes the financial problems in the relationship and the need for him to leave. In reality it is ALL him and his narcissism. Lies, lies and more lies with no accountability. He cries to his financial supply sources and then they give him more money to make it all better. Even buy him cars. He uses the money to manipulate his current source or to love-bomb the next victim. He ALWAYS moves quickly in relationships. You will find him living with you in a matter of weeks or months as he tells you he has “never felt like this before” and that you “woke him up inside.” It was not until he left that my acquaintance was able to payoff bills, get her own home and actually spend money on herself and child. Just look at the facts about him, he still cannot support himself. Either living with family, having them pay his bills or quickly moving in with a new source and retreating to video game land. Because of this financial supply from family members and their refusal to admit his sickness the lives of several children have forever been scarred and damaged. They too are at fault for enabling his pathological lying. Why would they never pick up the phone and talk directly to the current source? He is constantly talking to them because he is not capable of real feelings so he has to ask them how he should feel about different aspects of your relationship (like a true sociopath). He also likes to say it takes him a lot of time to process things….because he needs to be told how to feel by the few people he trusts.
He picks his victims carefully and usually always from an online forum such as a dating site, video game, etc. If you have children he will use them. He prefers victims with children. He is very good at getting them to adore him in the beginning which is just the means to the ends of his psychological and emotional control and abuse of them. But soon enough things change. If you disagree with his extreme parenting methods you will get glimpses of the narcissistic rage that lies right beneath the surface. And you will pay. Oh will you pay through emotional abuse and manipulation.
He will convince you that his cheating is just your trust issues in overdrive. Somehow he can sense when his victims have trust issues from past relationships. Social media, hundreds of hidden e-mail accounts, disposable cell phones and jobs that allow him breaks for online s*x hook-ups are his only friends. Just do some simple searches and you will find his profiles on the adult s*x sites. He likes to tell you that it is “just for the pornographic pictures” and that he does not really contact anyone on the sites.
Know the signs and beware of letting him in your life as boyfriend or s*x partner or even as a “friend.” Question everything if he is in your life. Notice how defensive he will get and turn it on you. That and sarcasm are his best defense mechanisms when in trouble. Look at how easily he has moved from state to state and arrives with nothing from his past. He has no good friends or even friends of his own. He only has friends that you provide him. And rest assured that he has begun to manipulate them to believe him over you so when things happen in your relationship he can make sure they think you are crazy. He will work diligently and deceptively to make sure he puts a divide between you and your family. Once you choose him it is game over for you. He knows he has you to control. All of the evidence is there but you have to see past the love-bombing, pathological lying and emotional manipulation. He is cold, sick, and demented. Pretending to regret his past, things he has done to you and promising to change are all part of his constant and consistent pattern. He cannot change. You will not change him. The most important thing to remember if you are reading this as a current supply source is that you will heal when he is out of your life. You are not alone and you are far from his first victim.
I am not passing this on as a victim. I saw the dead in his eyes the first time he stepped into my home. Most sociopaths are described as soulless and I saw this in him even though he preys on spirituality and pretends to be a spiritual creature. I was not a source for him. I was a good friend of one of his supply sources as well as a threat to him. It was recent phone call that she received from a recently discarded source that caused a bonding between the two of them over his many lies that sparked me to write this warning. I witnessed his process of love bombing, manipulation, pathological lying (to and about her), endless emotional abuse and then the discard after securing a new source of supply (and plenty of cheating in between). I am not writing this for her. She came through his discard and has thrived. I am writing this for the children he has hurt and abandoned. The psychological abuse and discard of the children is beyond sick. They are left spinning, reeling and crying. I pray that every child he victimizes has a mother as strong as my friend. Time, counseling and love have guaranteed her child will not come through as a victim. Her child will not repeat the sociopathic destruction of this monster.
Remember that when the discard happens and it WILL happen he choose you as his victim. Remember this post and why you are reading it. It was not your fault. Get help, support and counseling as sociopathic relationships are the most difficult to heal from. And get help for any children involved. He never should have been in their lives.
His latest discard recently posted the message below on PlayerBlock.com and I will respect her wishes going forward:
“Whoever keeps posting about my life with David Hough in Minooka (Illinois) on cheaterreport and FB please stop including me. My life is better without him and without the worry of who he is cheating with next. The woman he has been having an affair with can have him. I have more self-esteem and more respect for my child than to keep a cheater in my life like David Hough. So please stop using my life with him for examples of anything. I get he cheated on you too but I am done with him and have been since the moment I found out he was cheating. My divorce from David Hough will be done soon and it cannot happen fast enough. It would be great if he would quit fighting it (of course he is fighting it, he wants to keep her as a source and p****d she is out of his control). I would appreciate your having respect for me and the situation with David Hough. I do not wish to be involved in these antics period. I hope you too are able to heal and move on. I have sunk low enough to reach out to you on here. And I have said all I am going to say on the subject. Also, please stop emailing from random accounts. Thank you and good luck to you.”
I did not make those posts and I have never posted on that site. Clearly there are plenty of discards and victims looking for this scumbag. And you can find this post on FB as well.