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If it’s okay, here’s a worksheet idea: write two columns—what intimacy gives, what it asks. Then notice any protest behaviors when asks appear. Name the pattern with compassion. Practice a tiny repair after a tiny rupture this week. Before hard talks, two minutes of slow breathing and a sentence that starts with “I like you and I’m available for…” Self-compassion first, always. Secure agreements are built, not discovered. I love your reminder that attachment is a skill; skills grow with reps, not perfection. Rooting for everyone here who is brave enough to try again tomorrow. PS: progress can look like one honest text and then a nap.
20Not gonna lie, I just swipe for validation sometimes. I’m not proud, but it’s real. When work stress peaks, I scroll. It’s like candy—sweet, empty, temporary. I don’t even want to meet half the people. Balancing dating apps and real life means calling myself out for using dopamine as distraction. Brutal but freeing.
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