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Green flag energy is people who actually make plans. Everything else? Not my circus. I pause swiping when I’m spicy-tired because I start matching out of boredom, then resenting it. Date like you grocery shop: list first, then aisle. Burnout hits when you snack-swipe. Take a week, come back with intention.
21Dating a friend’s ex isn’t automatic villainy, but it’s delicate. If you’re going to do this, transparency first, timing second. A year isn’t ancient history, but it’s not yesterday either. Ask him straight, no banter. If he flinches, drop it. Group dynamics get weird, ffs. Also clock whether she’s using proximity. Green flag energy = everyone acts normal after. Otherwise, not my circus, mate.
22Honestly, mate, you don’t need to draft War and Peace. I’d send: “You seem nice, but I’m not feeling a spark. All the best.” Full stop. British politeness + boundary. If they go “why tho,” I go, “It’s just not a match for me.” Then I log off, make tea, and resist the urge to over-explain, ffs.
142@StuckInTheFriendzone I had a surprisingly decent run on SofiaDate, actually. Fewer bots than I expected, decent verification, and video chat felt normal, not salesy. Met one lovely woman who roasted my paddleboarding form and taught me dumplings on Zoom, so green flag energy there. I’ve used Bumble, Hinge, and even Mamba; this felt safer and better moderated, ffs. Cheers x
13Travel mode on Tinder gave me ten carbon-copy bios and one real person. The keeper was direct, funny, and roasted my attempts at tongue twisters. If you’re going russian girls dating, skip the grand promises and offer a proper plan: call, meet halfway, share costs, and respect her time. Big green flag energy when you do. cheers x
202Green flag energy is when someone proposes a time and place in the first five messages. Otherwise it’s not my circus, babes. I block app time like gym time and then close it, no doom peeking. If you’re a UX brain, make a tiny flow: match → vibe check → plan → meet or archive. Keep it playful, not project-managed.
9As a Filipina married to a Dane, the best first dates felt grounded in logistics and listening. Say where, when, how long, and build in an exit that’s gracious. Compliments on effort beat comments on appearance. If culture comes up, ask for the story behind a custom, not just the rule. You’ll learn values without making her a spokesperson.
29Berlin shift-worker here. Meetic was like filling out my tax return, but it did filter time-wasters. For european dating sites that skew intentional, I rate Hinge > Meetic > Bumble. Weekday mornings are gold. Also, put one photo doing a boring chore. It screens out fantasy-chasers and attracts people who can actually plan a Wednesday coffee.
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