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still learning here, but I relate to not wanting the audition vibe. What’s helped is framing my pace as a value, not a defect. I literally say I prefer consistency over intensity. Then I suggest a short meet with a clear end time. If someone takes offense, that’s useful data. Work in progress… but calmer dates now.

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I built a tiny tracker too, not as fancy. My conversion’s higher when I start online but pivot to a 10-minute video the same day. Weirdly, my second-date rate matches yours. My takeaway: the medium matters until a plan exists. After that, it’s the fit. Also, I A/B tested openers; specificity outruns wit.

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I treat apps like debugging sessions. If the conversation stalls, patch it or close it. No overthinking, no infinite loops. Also: one date per week max. Otherwise it’s burnout. Minimalist dating architecture, baby.

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