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Lawyer brain here, sorry in advance. Read TOS on data sharing before you verify with an ID—some “latin dating sites” outsource checks to third parties with broad usage rights. If the platform won’t tell you how to delete biometric data, don’t upload it. Practically, meet near transport, tell a friend, and set an end time you can honor.
25“Interest has feet” is going in my pocket, thank you. I’m also stealing the two-window test. Part of my struggle is conflict-avoidant folks who are gracious but indirect; I don’t want to bulldoze them. I’m going to try the plain statement plus options and practice taking soft no’s without litigating the subtext. Appreciate the sanity here.
29I’m Irish, spent ten months in Chengdu on a secondment, early-forties bloke with a fondness for neat lists I’m trying not to write. What surprised me was tempo. Everything’s brisk up front—WeChat exchanged, day/time set—then unhurried in person. People appreciated concrete plans and gentle follow-through. Splitting was easiest when framed as courtesy rather than ideology. I’d avoid “testing” humour; teasing lands differently cross-culturally. If you’re using English, ditch slang and hedge less. If you’re using beginner Chinese, keep sentences short, avoid internet idioms you half-know. On Moments, add after the first date only if the vibe is warm; otherwise, wait. Re “dating culture in China,” remember it’s plural: Shanghai isn’t Chengdu, and both aren’t third-tier cities. Mind the family weekend dinners—Sundays are sacred for many, so don’t push then. Lastly, text confirmations the morning of were read as considerate, not clingy.
17I’ll be the long-winded one. A colleague met his spouse on ColombiaLady, cross-border match Medellín–Madrid. It worked because they treated it like a correspondence courtship: weeks of messaging, scheduled video calls, zero pressure to move to private apps until both felt comfortable. They documented IDs before travel, shared itineraries with family, and met in public, twice, before involving friends. He swears the platform’s translation prompts helped reduce misunderstandings. Caveat: read the subscription terms carefully and never wire money. If you keep boundaries, it can be surprisingly wholesome.
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