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FWIW, back in the service we learned that clear, respectful signals keep ships from colliding. Same at sea as online. Start with something true you noticed, offer a small piece of yourself, and ask one easy question. If they answer kindly, you’ve got a heading. If not, don’t chase. Companionship starts with courtesy. Take care, Norm.
9I’m old enough to remember when you had to actually call a person and make a plan, so here’s my crusty advice: treat attention as currency. Spend it where there’s reciprocation and punctuality. I ask one thoughtful question, offer one specific plan, and if they don’t match that energy, I archive. The rest of my week belongs to books and barbeque.
19Old sailor here. In any harbor, you mind the local winds by asking, not assuming. Offer a steady course: coffee, a short walk, then a polite parting if it’s not a fit. If you step wrong, own it plain. Respect travels. Also, learn to enjoy silence; it keeps ships—and people—from knocking into each other.
291FWIW, Parship is where my widower friends in Frankfurt found thoughtful company, not instant sparks. Old-fashioned profiles, yes, but honest intentions. If you try european dating sites that promise speed, temper expectations. Write clearly about your everyday life and what you can give, not just what you want. It reads.
8Back in the service we had a saying: slow is smooth and smooth is fast. Same idea here. If a person is right, they won’t mind getting to know you at a human speed. Coffee in daylight, no promises you don’t mean, and always keep your standing commitments—gym, work, family—so you can see if they play well with your life or try to replace it. Ask about their routine and friends; people with sturdy lives tend to date sturdily. If you feel your gut clench, you don’t owe anyone a second date. FWIW, you sound squared away. Tighten your boundary script and you’ll save yourself a heap of trouble. Take care, Norm.
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