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Your numbers track my planner. I’m a schedule gremlin and in-person is just cleaner: less drift, fewer “sorry crazy week” texts. Online is fine if I can get a video on the calendar within a few days and a date the week after. If it stretches, enthusiasm dies. Clear ask, public place, 45-minute cap works.
17I split time between Lisbon and Floripa and the vibe in Floripa is more laid-back surfer than big-city chic. Açaí or caldo de cana isn’t cheap—it’s situational. Suggest a beach walk, then stop if it feels right. Also, don’t freak about “vamos ver.” People stack plans around traffic, weather, family. Confirm the morning of, no guilt trip. And yes, bring bug spray if you’re near dunes.
23Ngl, you’re already ahead of half the guys out there by even asking this. My only real advice: listen more than you talk. Don’t “translate” her reactions through your own lens—ask her what she meant. Also, don’t be weird about “Asian = traditional.” I’ve worked with plenty of women from different Asian countries, and they all hate being lumped together. So yeah, curiosity is great, just pair it with humility. Just my take.
8Is it realistic to expect someone new to follow your schedule if you never state it? Tbh I’d script it: “I don’t share locations or do constant texting; I prefer one date a week to start.” If they push, that’s your answer. Ngl trauma dumping about every “crazy ex” on date one is a pass for me. Do you have a cutoff for love-bombing, or do you keep negotiating? Decide the boundary when you’re calm, not when you’re flattered. Just my take.
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