[ChurchBoyChaz]

Kindness travels. So does condescension. If you show up on time, ask about her week, and listen more than you perform, you’ll know quickly whether she likes you. If she does, she’ll make room; if she doesn’t, she’ll be polite. Take no with grace. That’s universal, not cultural. Go with peace and good tea.

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[ChurchBoyChaz]

If it gets serious and you’re meeting family, ask about customs first. Some families pray before meals; follow along respectfully. A small host gift goes far—pastries from a local bakery, not wine if you don’t know their stance. Keep your jokes PG until you understand their humor boundaries. Gentleness communicates better than grand gestures.

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[ChurchBoyChaz]

Kindness can look like interest, but interest serves. It shows up, sets a time, and asks about that small thing you mentioned—your choir solo, your dog, your weird soup. If you’re unsure, try, “I’d like to see you again; Thursday or Sunday?” If they can’t choose either, bless them and go in peace.

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[ChurchBoyChaz]

Left on crude jokes and “just being honest” meanness. Right on kindness with a little humor. I like when someone references something small from my bio, like my choir solo disaster, and asks a gentle follow-up. Feels human. A prayer hand emoji is fine; a sermon is not. Keep it friendly and real.

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