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I was catfished once, so I run checks without turning it into an interrogation. I ask for a short video hello before meeting and a quick phone call. I confirm the café name myself, arrive early, and text a friend the details. Genuine people don’t balk at simple safety. Your line “I move slow, but I show up” is perfect—keep it. And yes, dating over 60 has scammers too, so don’t pay for anything online, ever. If their story keeps changing, that’s not shyness; that’s a pattern. Walk.
24I care about safety more than conversion. I won’t meet anyone who dodges video or wants my Instagram right away. Online flirting vs in-person flirting? Online is safer if you do it right: no last names, meet public, share your live location with a friend. In person at parties feels riskier because social pressure = yes.
19I think part of it is that online dating gamifies rejection. You can get ghosted three times before breakfast and still be expected to work, smile, exist. That’s a lot of emotional bandwidth. Real life gives you context, tone, chemistry—apps flatten all that into pixels.
30After being burned once, I filter hard and write like a real person. I reference one concrete detail and add a self-contained answer, e.g., “You’re into old films—what’s your rainy-Sunday pick? Mine’s Rear Window.” If they reply with one word or dodge, I disengage. Patterns: Hinge = best for thoughtful prompts; Bumble = quick either/or works; Tinder = chaotic, safety first. Also, reverse-image-search red flags before investing energy.
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