[ManilaMarketingGuy]

So there’s this girl who dated my close buddy for like… four months tops. No cheating, no scandals, just fizzled. It’s been a year since they split. We’re all still in the same barkada, we still hang out, and tbh the vibes between me and her have been low-key for months. We finally had a real conversation last week and—lol—chemistry is chemisting.

Now I’m stuck between “shoot your shot” and “don’t be that guy.” Context: they weren’t serious-serious, my friend’s already seeing someone new, and I’d be transparent before anything happens. I’m not trying to be sneaky. But I also don’t wanna create weirdness in the group chat or make game nights tense.

Question for the council: Where do you draw the line? Is there an expiration date on the “off-limits” rule? If you’ve dated a friend’s ex (or had a friend date yours), how did you handle boundaries, the convo, the timing? Scripts welcome. I’m thinking I talk to my friend first, keep it chill, and set ground rules for hangouts—pero open to being told I’m clowning. 😂

Drop your takes and your personal rules. Green flags, red flags, deal-breakers. Convince me either way. Sana all drama-free, but let’s be real—what actually works?

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[salty_sea_sara]

Dating a friend’s ex isn’t automatic villainy, but it’s delicate. If you’re going to do this, transparency first, timing second. A year isn’t ancient history, but it’s not yesterday either. Ask him straight, no banter. If he flinches, drop it. Group dynamics get weird, ffs. Also clock whether she’s using proximity. Green flag energy = everyone acts normal after. Otherwise, not my circus, mate.

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